Are successful women too picky?

Are successful women too picky? Can a successful woman have a successful relationship? I was driving into work today and on the radio there was a discussion about how successful women are incapable of having successful relationships because of a myriad of reasons. The one reason that stuck out to me was that the more successful you are, the pickier you are. So, to have a successful relationship, women need to lower their standards.


This is complete and total nonsense. In the DC metropolitan area, like most major cities, there are a large number of single women who are both educated and successful. It is important to note that successful is a relative term. In the case of this conversation, I think success equates to money and/or education, status, white collar, etc. Think about this. Women in this area are essentially forced to "date down" at some point. Women in white collar jobs date blue collar men all the time. Teachers date garbage men, accountants date city cops. Those of you in the DC metropolitan area must see this all the time. A woman can go out and meet a carpenter, for example, and if you are attracted to the guy, then more than likely you are going to go out with him, at least one. You may or may not hit it off with the person but at the very least you were willing to date him.

Like all relationships, things may start off good and end up a mess. I find that when I date a man that I cannot come home and tell about my day, there is a problem. I want to talk about the problem I had with the network for example and he wants to talk about who Rick Ross is dating. I want to tell him that I am up for a promotion and he wants to talk about why I am not looking for a job for him. That just doesn’t work. So what ends up happening is I have to dumb myself down to his level, which makes me feel like an idiot. So does that mean I am picky? I think not. The fact that I went out with this person blows up that notion because I did try it. I was willing to stand by him and accept his circumstances.

The reason I didn’t continue dating him has nothing to with me excluding him or dismissing him off the break. The plain truth is that we are in two different places, which caused more problems than chemistry and attraction can overcome. At some point, you need more than chemistry and attraction, like common interest, mutual hobbies, etc.

Also, men have more superficial standards that exclude a lot of good women off the break. She is too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short, she wears a weave, her feet aren’t pretty, she is too dark, too light, etc. Why is it okay for a man to have criteria but not a woman? Truth be told, men probably miss out on more good women then vice versa.

The bottom line is everyone wants what they cannot have. It is the typical “the grass is greener syndrome.” No one is ever satisfied with the person until he or she moves on. It is at that point one appreciates all of the good things about the person. Only a select few of us take hold of that person right away. Those my friends are the smart ones; the ones that know when they have a good thing.

~Lola